(I’m not sure when this was sent, i never got a notification, so I’m probably seeing this way late, I apologize!)
I realize there’s more to oppression than bullying and people saying mean things. I get that. I understand. I’m not saying that “Let’s just be nice” will make it all better. It’s not going to end all oppression. People will be assholes to everyone. But the sense that “white/cis/heteros can’t be offended because “THEY DON’T UNDERSTAND WHAT WE GO THROUGH” is bullshit. They’re still human beings and deserve to be treated as such, just like trans/gays/blacks/etc, etc. Being mean to the people we want to support us is not going to make them want to help us.
I understand that “real true" oppression is the fact that gays are legally not allowed to marry. People getting refused service and getting kicked out of places and homes because of their orientation/identity. Members of the LGBT+ community are treated like total shit, often like something less than human. And it disgusts me. The laws and regulations set in place are absolute bullshit. Everytime I see a new state legalizing gay marriage, it makes me overwhelmingly happy, and yet sad at the same time, because its stupid as hell that having to legalize marriage is a thing in the first place. (I could go on and on about all different kinds of this "real true" oppression and the various people being oppressed but let’s move on.)
Part of getting people to treat us as human beings involves helping letting people understand. Educating. The reason this oppression exists is because people are often disgusted or confused. Because human beings, as a whole, are afraid of things they don’t know or understand. Calling these people names and making them feel bad too, isn’t going to do anything. The more people who support it, the easier it will be to change the laws and bullshittery. We have to try to change the way people think before we can just expect everyone to just accept it and make everything better.
And the only reason this ‘argument’ started is because someone said that the words “cis” and “cishet” are not offensive. And of course they aren’t, they’re a simple term just like “gay” or “trans”. But they CAN be offensive, when used in certain contexts like “whiny straighties” and “cis sucm”, which are phrases I have seen multiple times around Tumblr. So I guess in that way, we aren’t talking about what you call “real true” oppression in the first place.
(I’d also like to point out that I am neither straight or cis. So making me sound like I’m just offended and whining about it is pointless. Also i think the word you’re looking for is “systematic”, not “systemstic”.)